i don't understand anything
As a lesbian, I do not care at all about bisexual girls feeling left out or judged in the LGBTQ community. I know that's horrible, especially since my girlfriend is bi, but I find it very revolting when I think about making love with someone that loves taking dick. I fell for my girlfriend without knowing she likes guys and girls. I don't purposefully date bisexual girls and I don't think it's wrong to say that.
Anonymous

last-snowfall:

star-anise:

annekewrites:

socialworkgradstudents:

1-800-hair-nest:

amazingatheist:

sc0uttt:

fatpinkmyrishswamp:

sc0uttt:

the-unfeminine-aesthetic:

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I really hope your girlfriend realizes she’s dating a pathetic waste of a human being and finds someone infinitely better. 

A lot of lesbians are turned off by the idea of their gf having sex with men. Why is that such a bad thing? Why is it so wrong to only like women who like other women? I think the anon who asked this should be honest with her gf and break up with her though if it’s that much of a turn off. 

At first I wasn’t going to reply to comments like these but now that I’ve had a couple of beers the idea of repeatedly hitting my head against a brick wall seems more enjoyable so here we go.

I have a problem with lesbians who claim that they have a “preference” towards dating other lesbians over bisexuals. I understand having a preference, I personally have a preference for girls who are my height or taller than me.  However, does this preference make me view my own voice, safety, and representation in my community as superior and of more importance than those I do not have a preference for? Nope. That’s why this anon (and unfortunately other like minded individuals)  don’t have a “preference” they are biphobic and overall prejudicial assholes.

If you’re not comfortable dating bisexual people because you feel they will ultimately leave you for the opposite sex or (insert other stereotypical view of bisexuals) you don’t have a preference, you are biphobic, and have some huge insecurities that you should probably deal with before you enter a relationship.

If you’re a lesbian and do not feel comfortable dating a woman who is also attracted to individuals with dicks because you find it “icky” or “gross”, it must blow your mind when you find out your partner likes watermelon and you don’t. How do you even move forward from there? Is the relationship just doomed? And yes it is the same thing. Those individuals are judging someone based on something they cannot control.

Prejudice and phobia inside the queer community is something I will never understand and is absolutely infuriating. 

Prejudice and phobia in any community makes no sense.

This is really upsetting and I’ll tell you why.

A lot of this is about respect. If you have a partner whose sexuality you can’t respect or, at bare minimum, even accept, you should not be with that person. I understand that some people don’t like penetration or aren’t attracted to people with penises, but if you truly respected your partner, you would be comfortable with them regardless of their sexual history and orientation. Their preferences have nothing to do with you (outside of the fact that you’re both attracted to women), and what matters is that they care about and are with you now.

Anonymous, you need to sit down and do some soul searching. You need to consider what about simply knowing this about your partner feels so wrong to you, and why. Think about it practically: Are you concerned your partner will leave you for someone else? Does knowing this make you feel your partner is somehow dirty or tainted? Do you think it means your partner will never fully commit to you? Why is your partner’s orientation and sexual history so important and upsetting to you? Consider the assumptions you’re making about bisexuality and those who are bisexual.

You also need to have a talk with your partner. You need to tell them how you feel and why you think you feel that way. Then you and your partner need to decide if you can continue your relationship. You should not be with someone you can’t accept, and your partner should not have to be with someone who really feels that way (nor should they be kept in the dark about this!).

This is biphobia at its most basic. I understand you have your own preferences, but you have no right to negatively judge someone for theirs, especially someone you’ve entered a relationship with.

This thought process also raises a bunch of other questions: What about trans or non-binary people? People with penises who are not straight or cisgendered? Would you feel the same if your partner had been with a transgender woman who had a penis? (Because that’d also be transphobic.) And what about sex play using toys or fingers? Obviously lots of people don’t enjoy penetration, but would it be better or different if your partner had only been penetrated by toys? Why?

Anonymous, you need to come clean to your partner and seriously rethink your feelings towards bisexuality.

Yo if a dude was all, I won’t fuck that girl cause she once fucked somebody I think is gross, we’d call that shit misogyny.

The idea that a penis can somehow dramatically corrupt or alter the body of a woman is straight up goddamn patriarchy-lovin misogyny, if you add in “but it’s about bisexuality” then fine you’re also biphobic, way to multitask your policing of female sexuality, very talented work

^^^^^ THIS.  THANK YOU.

Lesbian biphobia has so many shades of virginity fetishization and slut-shaming.  “Now that you, fair woman, have been RAVISHED by a MAN, you are icky and impure and gross.”  And it also somehow makes male/female sex seem more important than female/female sex?  “If she’s only been with women, she’ll be content to stay with women; but if she’s been with a man, she’ll always be tempted to dump her girlfriend and stray back to men.”

It manages to be misandric (men are so evil they taint everything they touch), patriarchal (men are so powerful they permanently alter everything they touch) AND misogynistic (women are polluted by the sex they have) ALL AT ONCE.

That takes talent. The bad kind.

lethalpoisonforthesystem:

The blue gem on the door is NOT Lapis Lazuli’s, it’s Garnet’s second gem.

lethalpoisonforthesystem:

The blue gem on the door is NOT Lapis Lazuli’s, it’s Garnet’s second gem.

sexysexnsuch:

ellescarred:

little-miss-fats:

source: robot-hugs

has anyone posted this yet? I love it! 

This was perfect

Important things 

-Evelyn

official-nightvaleradio:

If you see any youtube channel with Night Vale episodes, especially one with ads, please report it. None of the money is going to the crew and it’s completely unfair.

thahalfrican:

susiethemoderator:

brashblacknonbeliever:

boygeorgemichaelbluth:

youngblackandvegan:

baconflavoredpipedreams:

hylianears:

aiming for that 2016 black vote early

oh boy…

too early to call child protective services or….?

already fucked up by naming him kieran.

Just to add another layer of WTF, the name Kieran/Keiran means “black" or "little dark one" in Gaelic. The kid’s name is basically Black Romney.

WOOOW, while people stay reaching.


free him

thahalfrican:

susiethemoderator:

brashblacknonbeliever:

boygeorgemichaelbluth:

youngblackandvegan:

baconflavoredpipedreams:

hylianears:

aiming for that 2016 black vote early

oh boy…

too early to call child protective services or….?

already fucked up by naming him kieran.

Just to add another layer of WTF, the name Kieran/Keiran means “black" or "little dark one" in Gaelic. The kid’s name is basically Black Romney.

WOOOW, while people stay reaching.

free him

assbutt-in-the-garrison:

queendecuisine:

1863-project:

tigertwo1515:

did-you-kno:

Source

Damn

OKAY, LET’S TALK ABOUT ROBERT SMALLS (BECAUSE HE HAS A NAME, THANK YOU VERY MUCH).
ANYWAY.
Robert Smalls was born into slavery in 1839 and at the age of 12 his owner leased him out in Charleston, South Carolina. He gravitated towards working at the docks and on boats and eventually became the equivalent of a pilot, and in late 1861 he found himself assigned to a military transport boat named the CSS Planter.
On May 12, 1862, the white officers decided to spend the night on land. Smalls rounded up the enslaved crew and they hatched a plan, and once the officers were long gone they made a run for it, only stopping to pick up their families (who they notified) along the way. Smalls, disguised as the captain, steered the boat past Confederate forts (including Ft. Sumter) and over to the Union blockade, raising a white sheet his wife took from her job as a hotel maid as a flag of truce. The CSS Planter had a highly valuable code book and all manner of explosives on board.
Smalls ended up serving in the Union Navy and rose to the rank of captain there. He was also one of a number of individuals who talked to Abraham Lincoln about the possibility of African-American soldiers fighting for the Union, which became a reality.
After the war, Smalls bought his owner’s old plantation in Beaufort and even allowed the owner’s sickly wife to move back in until her death. He eventually served in the South Carolina House of Representatives (1865-1870), the South Carolina Senate (1871-1874), and the United States House of Representatives (1875-1879) and represented South Carolina’s 5th District from 1882-1883 and the 7th District from 1884-1887. He and other black politicians also fought against an amendment designed to disenfranchise black voters in 1895, but it unfortunately passed.
Smalls ended his public life by serving as U.S. Collector of Customs in Beaufort from 1889-1911. He died in 1915 at the age of 75.
And now you know Robert Smalls.

ROBERT SMALLS IS THE MAN.

There is actually a drunk history episode with the story of Robert Smalls and you should totally watch it HERE

assbutt-in-the-garrison:

queendecuisine:

1863-project:

tigertwo1515:

did-you-kno:

Source

Damn


OKAY, LET’S TALK ABOUT ROBERT SMALLS (BECAUSE HE HAS A NAME, THANK YOU VERY MUCH).

ANYWAY.

Robert Smalls was born into slavery in 1839 and at the age of 12 his owner leased him out in Charleston, South Carolina. He gravitated towards working at the docks and on boats and eventually became the equivalent of a pilot, and in late 1861 he found himself assigned to a military transport boat named the CSS Planter.

On May 12, 1862, the white officers decided to spend the night on land. Smalls rounded up the enslaved crew and they hatched a plan, and once the officers were long gone they made a run for it, only stopping to pick up their families (who they notified) along the way. Smalls, disguised as the captain, steered the boat past Confederate forts (including Ft. Sumter) and over to the Union blockade, raising a white sheet his wife took from her job as a hotel maid as a flag of truce. The CSS Planter had a highly valuable code book and all manner of explosives on board.

Smalls ended up serving in the Union Navy and rose to the rank of captain there. He was also one of a number of individuals who talked to Abraham Lincoln about the possibility of African-American soldiers fighting for the Union, which became a reality.

After the war, Smalls bought his owner’s old plantation in Beaufort and even allowed the owner’s sickly wife to move back in until her death. He eventually served in the South Carolina House of Representatives (1865-1870), the South Carolina Senate (1871-1874), and the United States House of Representatives (1875-1879) and represented South Carolina’s 5th District from 1882-1883 and the 7th District from 1884-1887. He and other black politicians also fought against an amendment designed to disenfranchise black voters in 1895, but it unfortunately passed.

Smalls ended his public life by serving as U.S. Collector of Customs in Beaufort from 1889-1911. He died in 1915 at the age of 75.

And now you know Robert Smalls.

ROBERT SMALLS IS THE MAN.

There is actually a drunk history episode with the story of Robert Smalls and you should totally watch it HERE

naamahdarling:


writebastard:

petticoatruler:

youngnoblewoman:

greygullmargarita:

MY DEAR FOLLOWERS.
If you only ever read and/or reblog one of my posts, I hope this will be the one. Due to some medical problems I am on two pretty serious medications. One is fairly affordable. The other one? Well…
The local Krogers charges over $200 PER MONTH.
I did some research and found out that COSTCO had it for “considerably cheaper.”  But I wasn’t a member of Costco. Come to find out, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A MEMBER to fill prescriptions at their pharmacy.
In that bag I’m holding is a 90 DAY supply of BOTH medications for…wait for it….$38. This is friggin awesome. I nearly cried when I found out. So please, share this info (if not necessarily this post). There are plenty Tumblr folks who are struggling with medication costs and this could really help them.
I hope I’ve already helped some of you. :)

Yes! If you happen to have access to the portal to the magical realms where Costco actually is a thing, then this is probably really good for you to know! 

Costco is amazing (and sometimes worth going in for a membership for bulk foods!)

This makes me angry.
Not because somebody found their necessary ‘scripts for $38 instead of $200, that’s fab. But because there are millions, if not tens of millions, of people out there who end up spending that $200 every month, and more, because they don’t have the resources - in terms of time, energy, or capacity - to do that research. Not to mention the people that simply give up, and stay sick.
I manage my mother’s health care, including her prescriptions, which - depending on where she is in the complicated Medicare Part D pricing scheme in any given month - can run anywhere from $300 to $1200 a month. Every time I discover some new plan, retailer, or other trick that saves her money, I think about what’d happen to her if I wasn’t here to figure this crap out. The elderly, the ill…on top of everything else they’re going through, in this country they are forced to navigate a hostile healthcare marketplace that’s designed to maximize profit…just like every other market.
The reason that there’s such a  wide range of prices - e.g., $200 vs. $38 - is because the pharmaceutical vendors are betting that patients won’t discover that they do not NEED to pay that much. The entire business model is based on deception. From the company that makes the drugs, to the pharmacy chain that sells them.
Which is a principle of the free market - buyer beware, an informed consumer is the best consumer, all that. But this isn’t a new car, or a computer, or a television. This is health care. By definition, the people that need these drugs are sick. Many of them are very sick, and that means diminished capacity. “Buyer beware” is not acceptable here. It’s like expecting someone to walk in to a Toyota dealership and negotiate for the best deal on a new Prius with a fresh skull fracture and partial blindness.
Treating health care - and prescription drugs - as just another product in the free marketplace is flat-out immoral.
Anyway…I’m ranting. This afternoon I spent 20 minutes pacing the aisles of my local CVS while on the phone in the with my mother’s new prescription provider, trying to find out why one ‘script was well over twice the expected price. Eventually I uttered the phrase, “You are saying a bunch of words that have nothing to do with what I just told you” before hanging up in disgust. Which was literally true: the rep started reading from a completely irrelevant script, and it was clear that he had no idea what I was talking about. Not worth my time. I’ll sort it out later.
But it shouldn’t be this hard, folks. It just shouldn’t. I’m young (ish), smart - if I do say so myself - and relatively adept at negotiating automated phone trees.
There’s an entire business model here predicated on the notion that a whole bunch of sick people just won’t have it in them to get the best price they can, and that…is…wrong.

There’s an entire business model here predicated on the notion that a whole bunch of sick people just won’t have it in them to get the best price they can, and that…is…wrong.
It’s horrific.  It’s utterly fucking horrific.

naamahdarling:

writebastard:

petticoatruler:

youngnoblewoman:

greygullmargarita:

MY DEAR FOLLOWERS.

If you only ever read and/or reblog one of my posts, I hope this will be the one. Due to some medical problems I am on two pretty serious medications. One is fairly affordable. The other one? Well…

The local Krogers charges over $200 PER MONTH.

I did some research and found out that COSTCO had it for “considerably cheaper.”  But I wasn’t a member of Costco. Come to find out, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A MEMBER to fill prescriptions at their pharmacy.

In that bag I’m holding is a 90 DAY supply of BOTH medications for…wait for it….$38. This is friggin awesome. I nearly cried when I found out. So please, share this info (if not necessarily this post). There are plenty Tumblr folks who are struggling with medication costs and this could really help them.

I hope I’ve already helped some of you. :)

Yes! If you happen to have access to the portal to the magical realms where Costco actually is a thing, then this is probably really good for you to know! 

Costco is amazing (and sometimes worth going in for a membership for bulk foods!)

This makes me angry.

Not because somebody found their necessary ‘scripts for $38 instead of $200, that’s fab. But because there are millions, if not tens of millions, of people out there who end up spending that $200 every month, and more, because they don’t have the resources - in terms of time, energy, or capacity - to do that research. Not to mention the people that simply give up, and stay sick.

I manage my mother’s health care, including her prescriptions, which - depending on where she is in the complicated Medicare Part D pricing scheme in any given month - can run anywhere from $300 to $1200 a month. Every time I discover some new plan, retailer, or other trick that saves her money, I think about what’d happen to her if I wasn’t here to figure this crap out. The elderly, the ill…on top of everything else they’re going through, in this country they are forced to navigate a hostile healthcare marketplace that’s designed to maximize profit…just like every other market.

The reason that there’s such a  wide range of prices - e.g., $200 vs. $38 - is because the pharmaceutical vendors are betting that patients won’t discover that they do not NEED to pay that much. The entire business model is based on deception. From the company that makes the drugs, to the pharmacy chain that sells them.

Which is a principle of the free market - buyer beware, an informed consumer is the best consumer, all that. But this isn’t a new car, or a computer, or a television. This is health care. By definition, the people that need these drugs are sick. Many of them are very sick, and that means diminished capacity. “Buyer beware” is not acceptable here. It’s like expecting someone to walk in to a Toyota dealership and negotiate for the best deal on a new Prius with a fresh skull fracture and partial blindness.

Treating health care - and prescription drugs - as just another product in the free marketplace is flat-out immoral.

Anyway…I’m ranting. This afternoon I spent 20 minutes pacing the aisles of my local CVS while on the phone in the with my mother’s new prescription provider, trying to find out why one ‘script was well over twice the expected price. Eventually I uttered the phrase, “You are saying a bunch of words that have nothing to do with what I just told you” before hanging up in disgust. Which was literally true: the rep started reading from a completely irrelevant script, and it was clear that he had no idea what I was talking about. Not worth my time. I’ll sort it out later.

But it shouldn’t be this hard, folks. It just shouldn’t. I’m young (ish), smart - if I do say so myself - and relatively adept at negotiating automated phone trees.

There’s an entire business model here predicated on the notion that a whole bunch of sick people just won’t have it in them to get the best price they can, and that…is…wrong.

There’s an entire business model here predicated on the notion that a whole bunch of sick people just won’t have it in them to get the best price they can, and that…is…wrong.

It’s horrific.  It’s utterly fucking horrific.

roachpatrol:

the-real-seebs:

kayinnasaki:

Cyber harassment study reveals the unsurprising!
It still amazes me that I talk to guys who still think they get harassed just as much as women online. Like even from people who aren’t clearly and totally gross dumbasses. It kinda makes me think that, even in the best cases, it might be hard to really understand the sheer difference in frequency. You see a woman get harassed on a game and you go “Oh well I’ve been harassed” without understanding that there is seldom a session for her where that doesn’t happen or understanding what her inbox might look like…

That is a sort of stunning degree of difference.

"The data’s in! Women were lying about online harassment!”
"Aha! We knew it!" 
“Yeah, they’ve been severely underreporting how bad things are for them, turns out.”
"Wait, what?"

roachpatrol:

the-real-seebs:

kayinnasaki:

Cyber harassment study reveals the unsurprising!

It still amazes me that I talk to guys who still think they get harassed just as much as women online. Like even from people who aren’t clearly and totally gross dumbasses. It kinda makes me think that, even in the best cases, it might be hard to really understand the sheer difference in frequency. You see a woman get harassed on a game and you go “Oh well I’ve been harassed” without understanding that there is seldom a session for her where that doesn’t happen or understanding what her inbox might look like…

That is a sort of stunning degree of difference.

"The data’s in! Women were lying about online harassment!”

"Aha! We knew it!

Yeah, they’ve been severely underreporting how bad things are for them, turns out.”

"Wait, what?"